Introduction: Some Management Questions Don’t Have Easy Answers
Every manager — whether leading a team of five or fifty — eventually runs into a moment where they think: “What is the right thing to do here?”
Not every workplace challenge has a clean policy response or a paragraph in the employee handbook. Sometimes the most important HR decisions live in the grey zone: they require judgment, empathy, and a clear understanding of what you are trying to achieve as a leader.
At Bliss HR Africa, we hear questions like these from managers and business owners every single day. So we decided to tackle three of the most common — and genuinely tricky — workplace dilemmas head-on. No jargon. No corporate hedging. Just honest, practical guidance you can actually use.
Dilemma #1: Do I Need to Help My Remote Team Members Build Relationships With One Another?
The scenario: Your team works remotely. They deliver their tasks, hit their deadlines, and show up to video calls when required. But you notice they barely interact beyond work. There are no side conversations, no inside jokes, no sense of “us.” You wonder: is this my problem to solve, or are professional relationships just a nice-to-have?
The honest answer: Yes — and it matters more than you think.
This is not a soft issue. It is a business-critical one.
Remote teams that lack genuine connection between members tend to experience more miscommunication, slower collaboration, and higher turnover. When employees without spontaneous office interactions drift away from each other, they can slowly drift away from their sense of purpose at the company too — leading to disengagement that quietly erodes productivity and morale long before anyone names it as a problem.
Research on remote work consistently distinguishes between frequent communication and meaningful connection. A manager who only checks in for project updates is providing oversight — not relationship infrastructure. There is a real and important difference.
The challenge is that remote work fundamentally limits the organic, unplanned interactions that office environments generate almost by accident: a question over a partition, a shared laugh at the coffee machine, a spontaneous lunch. In a virtual environment, those moments do not happen unless someone creates the conditions for them.
That someone is you.
What to do about it:
Create structured informal time. This sounds like a contradiction, but it works. Schedule a monthly “no-agenda” virtual coffee, a Friday wind-down session, or a team chat channel dedicated purely to non-work conversation. People will not always self-organise — especially across time zones or cultures — so a gentle structure gives them permission to connect.
Pair people intentionally. Mentoring programmes and peer partnerships are among the most effective tools for building genuine relationships in remote environments. Pair team members across different functions or experience levels to work on a shared challenge, knowledge-share, or simply to check in on each other. These pairings build bridges that would never form organically in a fully async environment.
Use virtual team-building with intention. Not every virtual event lands well, and forcing fun rarely creates it. Instead, think about activities that are low-pressure and genuinely interesting — a shared playlist, a quiz, a “show us where you work” tour, or even a book recommendation thread. The goal is shared experience, not performance.
Recognise and celebrate publicly. Shout-outs in team meetings, a recognition channel on Slack or Teams, or a monthly spotlight on a team member’s contribution all build the kind of social fabric that makes people feel seen and connected — even from a distance.
Make communication a cultural commitment, not a checkbox. Relationship-building in remote teams requires that communication is seen as part of the culture — not just a tool for task completion. When people feel safe to interact informally, they build the trust that makes them better collaborators when the work gets hard.
Bliss HR Perspective: At Bliss HR Africa, we consistently see that the remote teams that thrive are the ones where leadership has been intentional about connection from the very beginning. If you wait until morale is low to invest in relationships, it is much harder to recover. Build the culture now.
Dilemma #2: An Employee Is Asking for a Salary Increase — But I Don’t Think They’ve Earned It. What Do I Do?
The scenario: A team member comes to you and asks for a raise. You appreciate their confidence, but honestly, their performance has been average at best. You don’t want to dismiss them unfairly — but you also cannot justify a pay rise you don’t believe they’ve earned. How do you handle this conversation without damaging the relationship or demotivating them further?
The honest answer: With honesty, data, and a clear path forward.
First, acknowledge the courage it takes to have this conversation. Research shows that many employees avoid salary negotiations altogether because they fear being seen as difficult, greedy, or overreaching. The fact that your employee came to you is a sign of trust — and deserves a genuine response, not a brush-off.
But a genuine response does not mean an automatic yes.
Here is what a fair and effective approach looks like:
Separate the emotion from the decision. Salary negotiations feel personal to the employee — and they are. Half of employees globally report struggling to make ends meet, and nearly three-quarters feel they deserve a raise for their current responsibilities. The stakes are real for them. As the manager, your job is to hold both realities at once: empathy for the human, and fairness to the organisation.
Come with data, not just instinct. Before the conversation, do your research. What is the market rate for this role in your region or industry? Are similar roles at comparable organisations paying more? If the employee’s current salary is already at or above market rate, you can make that case with evidence rather than opinion.
Be honest about performance — specifically. Do not say “I just don’t feel you’ve earned it.” That is vague and demotivating. Instead, name the specific behaviours, outcomes, or milestones that you would need to see to justify a salary increase. Make it concrete: “If you lead the next client project independently and deliver it on time, that would demonstrate the growth level we’d need to see.”
Offer a path, not a door shut. If a raise is not appropriate right now, say so clearly — but immediately pivot to what it would take to get there. Set a timeline (e.g., a three or six-month performance review) and put it in writing. This turns a potentially demoralising conversation into a motivating one.
Consider non-salary benefits. If the budget is genuinely tight, explore what else you can offer: flexible working hours, an extra leave day, a professional development budget, or a clear promotion track. These are not substitutes for fair pay, but they demonstrate that you value the employee even when you cannot increase their salary today.
Bliss HR Insight: Compensation conversations are relationship conversations. The way you handle this moment will shape whether the employee stays committed to the team — or quietly starts looking elsewhere. Honesty delivered with care and a clear path forward is almost always better received than vague reassurances or deflection.
Dilemma #3: I Have an Underperforming Employee — But I Like Them as a Person. How Do I Handle This?
The scenario: There is someone on your team who is genuinely likeable — warm, positive, a good cultural fit. But their output is consistently below what is expected. Other team members are picking up the slack. You keep hoping things will improve, but they are not. How do you address the performance issue without feeling like you are punishing a good person?
The honest answer: Liking someone and leading them well are not the same thing.
This is one of the most emotionally complex situations a manager faces — and one of the most common reasons performance issues are left unaddressed for far too long.
Here is the uncomfortable truth: by avoiding the conversation, you are not being kind. You are being unkind — to the underperforming employee (who may not fully understand they are falling short), to the rest of the team (who see the inconsistency and lose trust in your leadership), and to the organisation.
Inadequate performance management that fails to address underperformance consistently damages teams more than the difficult conversation ever will.
Name the issue clearly and early. Do not wait until the situation is critical. The sooner you address underperformance, the more manageable it is — and the more genuine options you have. A conversation six months earlier might have prevented the situation from escalating at all.
Start with curiosity, not accusation. Before you conclude that someone simply is not performing, ask questions. Is there something going on outside work? Do they have the tools, training, and clarity they need to succeed? Sometimes underperformance is a symptom of poor onboarding, unclear expectations, or personal circumstances — none of which are fully the employee’s fault.
Document everything. Once you have identified that the performance issue is real and persistent, begin keeping a clear record of specific instances, the conversations you have had, and the support you have offered. This protects both you and the employee in case the situation escalates to a formal process.
Use a structured performance improvement plan (PIP) thoughtfully. A PIP is not a precursor to firing someone — or at least it should not be framed that way. Used well, it is a structured, time-bound roadmap that gives the employee a clear understanding of the gap between their current performance and what is expected, with specific support and checkpoints along the way. Done with care, it has genuinely helped many employees turn their performance around.
Accept that the outcome may be separation — and that is okay. Not every performance conversation ends in recovery. Sometimes, despite your best efforts and the employee’s genuine goodwill, the role is simply not the right fit. Ending an employment relationship professionally, respectfully, and fairly — with proper process followed — is not a failure of leadership. It is sometimes the most responsible outcome for everyone involved.
Bliss HR Perspective: Likeability and capability are both important in a team — but they serve different functions. Your job as a manager is to create the conditions for every person on your team to perform at their best. For a struggling team member, the most caring thing you can do is be honest about the gap and invest in a genuine plan to close it.
Final Thoughts: The Best Managers Ask the Hard Questions
If you have found yourself wrestling with any of the three dilemmas above, that discomfort is actually a sign that you are paying attention — and that you care about getting it right.
The managers who build the best teams are not the ones who have all the answers. They are the ones who ask better questions, have the courage to have difficult conversations, and approach every workplace challenge with both integrity and humanity.
At Bliss HR Africa, we help organisations across the continent build those kinds of management cultures. Whether you need support with team structure, performance management frameworks, compensation benchmarking, or remote work policies — we are here to help you navigate the grey.
Have a workplace dilemma you are not sure how to handle? Reach out to the Bliss HR Africa team and let’s work through it together.
Published by Bliss HR Africa | Your Trusted HR Partner Across the Continent
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